20160826 【 Our Need for Boundaries 】

Our Need for Boundaries

People with healthy boundaries

~say no to others without fear of rejection;

~can be told no without taking it personally;

~speak or act in a calm manner in their own defence;

~take responsibility for their behaviour, emotions and ideas;

~make healthy , independent choices even when others criticize their decisions;

~separate their own thoughts and feelings from those around them.

People with healthy boundaries do not

~tolerate abuse;

~blame others for their own decisions;

~say yes to everything in order to please others;

~manipulate others;

~act like a victim when things don't go their way;

~feel responsible for others' happiness;

~sacrifice their own plans and dreams to please others;

~blame themselves when someone hurts them.

Open doors

A life without boundaries is like a house with the doors left wide open.

Anyone can walk in without an invitation and do whatever they like.

Personal boundaries are just another way of saying, "Please knock first, and respect the rules of the house."